How To Control Your Subconscious Mind
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### Intro & Hook
Do you ever feel like you’re stuck? Like you’re living the same day over and over again, fighting the same internal battles, and hitting the same walls, no matter how hard you consciously try to change?
You set the goal. You make the plan. You feel that rush of motivation. But then, weeks or months later, you find yourself right back where you started, wondering why willpower alone never seems to be enough.
What if I told you that most of your decisions, actions, and emotions are driven by a part of your mind you’re barely even aware of? An invisible force running your life from behind the scenes, following a script that was written years, or even decades, ago.
This isn’t just a cool idea; this is the reality of your subconscious mind. It’s an automatic guidance system that is far more powerful than your conscious willpower. And for most of us, it’s a system we have no idea how to access, let alone change.
In this video, we’re going to fix that. We’re going to look behind the curtain and understand how your mind *actually* works. You’ll learn the practical, actionable techniques to finally break free from your own limiting beliefs and start deliberately creating the life you want.
So, if you’re ready to stop being a passenger and get into the driver’s seat of your own life, stick with me.
### Section 1: The Invisible Architect – Why You’re Struggling
To understand why changing your life can feel like pushing a boulder uphill, you first have to meet the architect of that hill: your subconscious mind.
Think of your mind like an iceberg. The little tip you see above the water? That’s your conscious mind. It’s what you’re using right now to listen and process these words. It’s the part that thinks, reasons, and sets goals. It’s the voice in your head that says, “This year, I’m finally going to get in shape,” or “I’m going to start that business.”
You might have heard popular psychology sources throw around numbers like the conscious mind is only 5% of your mental processing, while the other 95% is the massive, hidden part of the iceberg—the subconscious. While neuroscience doesn’t assign exact percentages, seeing the brain as a much more integrated system, this iceberg metaphor is incredibly useful for grasping the sheer scale of influence we’re talking about. The vast majority of who you are—your habits, your gut reactions, your deepest beliefs—all live in this deep, powerful, subconscious realm.
And this system isn’t just sitting there. It has a job. Your brain works to keep your body in a state of balance, or homeostasis, automatically regulating things like your temperature and heartbeat. In the same way, your subconscious mind tries to keep you in a “mental” comfort zone by filtering your reality to match your existing beliefs. This is a well-known phenomenon called confirmation bias.
Your subconscious works tirelessly to prove your own beliefs true. If you subconsciously believe you’re not good enough, it will spotlight every mistake you make and conveniently ignore evidence of your competence. If you deep down believe that money is hard to come by, you’ll constantly see scarcity and overlook opportunities. It’s a self-fulfilling loop.
So, where did this programming come from? For the most part, it was written during the first several years of your life. From birth to about age seven, a child’s brain is in a state of incredible receptivity, almost like a sponge. The analytical, critical part of the mind—the part that questions information—hasn’t fully developed yet. In this state, children absorb the beliefs, behaviors, and attitudes of their environment directly into their subconscious, without a filter.
They learn how to love by how they are loved. They form core beliefs about their own worth and capabilities based on the words and actions of parents, teachers, and friends. If a child is repeatedly told they’re clumsy, that belief gets installed as a program. If they watch their parents fight about money, they might install a program that links money with stress and conflict. If they experience inconsistent affection, they might form a deep-seated belief that they aren’t worthy of consistent love.
These aren’t just memories; they’re the foundational programs that become the automatic operating instructions for the rest of your life. This is why we see the same patterns repeat. The person who always seems to attract emotionally unavailable partners is often running a childhood program of unworthiness. The entrepreneur who sabotages their own success right before a major breakthrough is often running a program that says, “It’s not safe to be too successful.”
Your conscious mind can shout, “I want to be confident!” all day long. But if your subconscious program says, “I’m not safe when I’m the center of attention,” your body will still flood with anxiety before a presentation. This isn’t a failure of willpower. It’s a conflict between two parts of your mind. And it’s a battle the subconscious usually wins, not because it’s “stronger,” but because it’s *automatic*. Conscious effort takes energy, while a subconscious program runs effortlessly in the background. It’s not you. It’s your programming.
### Section 2: The Promise – You Are the Programmer
Hearing all of that might feel a little discouraging. It can sound like you’re just a puppet, controlled by strings put in place before you could even tie your own shoes. But here’s the profound, empowering truth: you are not the puppet. You can learn to pull the strings. The same mechanisms that installed your old programming can be used to install new, empowering programming.
The key to this entire process is one of the most exciting discoveries in modern neuroscience: neuroplasticity. For a long time, we thought the brain was more or less fixed in adulthood. We now know that’s completely wrong. Neuroplasticity is the brain’s incredible ability to reorganize itself, to form new connections and pathways in response to new experiences, learning, and even your own thoughts.
Think of your brain as a dense forest. Your recurring thoughts and behaviors are like well-worn paths. Every time you think a thought, you walk down that path, making it a little wider and easier to travel next time. A deeply ingrained belief like “I’m not good enough” is like a superhighway in your brain. Your thoughts travel down it automatically because it’s the path of least resistance.
But neuroplasticity means you can create *new* paths. At first, trying to think a new thought, like “I am capable and worthy,” feels like hacking your way through a dense jungle with a machete. It’s hard work. You might get lost and find yourself right back on the old superhighway of self-doubt. But if you keep walking that new path, day after day, something incredible starts to happen. A trail forms. With enough repetition, that trail becomes a road, and eventually, a new superhighway. At the same time, the old superhighway of “I’m not good enough,” which you’re no longer using, starts to get overgrown with weeds until it’s no longer your default route.
This isn’t just a metaphor; it’s what’s physically happening in your brain. When you consistently focus your attention and repeat new ways of thinking, you cause groups of neurons to fire together. And as the famous saying in neuroscience goes, “neurons that fire together, wire together.” You are literally building and strengthening new circuits that represent your new beliefs.
So, here’s the promise: I’m going to show you how you can become the sculptor of your own brain. You’ll learn a step-by-step process to first identify the old, unhelpful pathways and then deliberately build new, empowering ones. You are not a victim of your past. You have the power to update your own mental software. It takes consistency and patience, but it is absolutely possible to turn your subconscious mind from a saboteur into your greatest ally.
### Section 3: The Step-by-Step Guide – How to Do It
This is where we move from theory into practice. Let’s walk through the actual steps you can take to start reprogramming your subconscious mind. This is your toolkit for becoming the architect of your inner world.
#### Step 1: Understand Your Internal Blueprint
Before you can reprogram a computer, you need to know the difference between the user interface and the operating system. The same is true for your mind.
The **Conscious Mind** is the “Captain” of your ship. It holds the map and chooses the destination. It uses logic and reason. When you decide, “I want to sail to the island of Financial Freedom,” that’s your Captain speaking. The Captain, however, gets tired. It can only focus on one or two things at a time and has limited processing power.
The **Subconscious Mind** is the “Crew and the Engine Room.” It’s the massive, powerful system that actually keeps the ship running—the engines, the sails, the life support. It’s where your habits and automatic functions live. The subconscious doesn’t use logic; it operates on association and feeling. It learns through repetition and emotion. And its processing power is immense, far greater than the conscious mind.
Now, here’s the most important part of the analogy: the crew (your subconscious) only knows how to run the ship based on their past training (your programming). If the crew was trained for years to believe the open ocean is dangerous, they’ll automatically keep the ship sailing in circles close to shore. The Captain (your conscious mind) can stand on the deck and yell “Sail to the new island!” all day long. But if the crew’s ingrained training is to avoid that, they’ll find subtle ways to steer the ship back. Maybe they’ll “accidentally” misread the compass or “discover” a mechanical issue. It isn’t sabotage; it’s just the program running automatically.
This is why willpower feels like it’s losing to the subconscious. It’s one captain shouting orders versus a deeply trained crew of thousands running on autopilot. To succeed, you don’t fight the crew. You have to go down into the engine room and *retrain* them.
#### Step 2: Become the Mind Detective – Find Your Limiting Beliefs
You can’t change a program you don’t know exists. Your first real task is to become a detective of your own mind. You need to shine a light on the specific limiting beliefs that are running your life. Here’s how to find them.
**Technique 1: Trace the Feeling.** Your emotions are messengers from your subconscious. The next time you feel a strong negative emotion—a pang of anxiety, a flash of anger—hit pause. Ask yourself: “What was the exact thought I just had that triggered this?” Don’t judge it, just observe it. Maybe the thought was, “They’re going to think my idea is stupid.” Now, dig one level deeper. Ask: “What must I believe about myself for that thought to feel true?” The answer might be a core belief like, “My opinions aren’t valuable.” Write that down.
**Technique 2: The “5 Whys” Method.** This is a simple but powerful technique for drilling down to the root of a problem. Start with a surface-level issue and just ask “why?” five times.
* **Problem:** “I keep procrastinating on this project.”
* **1. Why?** “Because I’m afraid I won’t do a good job.”
* **2. Why are you afraid of that?** “Because I’m worried it won’t be perfect.”
* **3. Why does it need to be perfect?** “Because if it’s not, people will criticize it.”
* **4. Why does criticism bother you so much?** “Because it feels like they’re criticizing *me*.”
* **5. Why does that feel so personal?** “Because I believe my self-worth is tied to my achievements.”
*Boom.* There it is. In five questions, you went from simple procrastination to a deep-seated limiting belief: “My worth depends on my perfect performance.” That’s the program you need to rewrite.
**Technique 3: Examine Your Language.** Your subconscious beliefs leak out in your everyday language, especially in your “I am” statements and with absolute words like “always” and “never.” Pay attention to how you talk. Do you say things like:
* “I’m just *terrible* with money.”
* “I *always* mess things up.”
* “I could *never* do that.”
Each of these isn’t a fact; it’s an affirmation of a limiting belief. When you catch one, write it down and ask yourself, “Is this 100% true, or is it just a story I’ve been telling myself?” This simple act of questioning starts to loosen the belief’s grip.
Spend a week just being a mind detective. Your only job is to observe and record without judgment. By the end of the week, you’ll have a list of the core limiting beliefs that have been running your reality. This list is your roadmap.
#### Step 3: The Reprogramming Toolkit – Install New Software
Now that you’ve identified the old code, it’s time to install the new programs. This is done through consistent, deliberate practice, using the language of the subconscious: repetition and emotion.
**Technique A: The Art and Science of Affirmations**
Effective affirmations are a direct application of neuroplasticity. When done right, they build and strengthen new neural pathways.
* **Rule 1: Use the Present Tense.** Your subconscious operates in the *now*. Saying “I *will* be confident” reinforces that you aren’t confident now. You have to declare it as a current fact: “**I am** confident and composed.”
* **Rule 2: Frame it Positively.** Your subconscious thinks in pictures and doesn’t really process negatives. If you say, “I don’t want to be anxious,” the main image and feeling your mind gets is “anxious.” State what you *do* want: “**I am** calm and in control.”
* **Rule 3: Add Emotion.** This is the most important part. An affirmation without feeling is just an empty phrase. As you say, “I am worthy of success,” you have to *feel* what that’s like. Feel the pride, the joy, the security. Emotion is the fuel that speeds up the rewiring process.
* **Rule 4: Repeat, Repeat, Repeat.** Consistency is key. Dedicate five minutes in the morning and five minutes at night to your affirmations. Say them out loud. Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye, and declare your new truths.
**Examples:**
* Instead of “I hate being broke,” use: “**I am** a magnet for money. Prosperity flows to me easily and often.”
* Instead of “I’m not insecure,” use: “**I am** courageous, bold, and I trust my abilities.”
**Technique B: Visualization – Create Your Future Now**
Visualization is like creating a mental movie of your desired reality. Your brain doesn’t always know the difference between a vividly imagined experience and a real one. When you visualize, you’re generating the thoughts and feelings of success *before* it even happens, essentially pre-paving the neural pathways.
Here’s how:
1. Find a quiet place. Close your eyes and take a few deep, slow breaths.
2. Bring a specific goal to mind, like nailing a job interview.
3. Step into the scene through your own eyes. What are you wearing? What does the room look like?
4. Engage your senses. Feel the chair you’re sitting on. Hear yourself answering questions with confidence and clarity.
5. Focus on the feeling. Feel the confidence. Fast forward to the end of the interview. See the interviewer smiling and shaking your hand. Feel that sense of accomplishment.
6. Hold onto that peak emotion—that feeling of success—for at least 15 seconds. Let it sink in.
7. Open your eyes.
Doing this daily trains your subconscious to become familiar with the feeling of success, giving it a new target to move toward automatically.
**Technique C: The Truth About How Long It Takes**
You’ve probably heard the myth that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. This is a massive oversimplification that causes a lot of people to give up too soon. That idea comes from a misinterpretation of a plastic surgeon’s observations in the 1960s.
More rigorous modern research tells a different story. A key 2009 study found that the time it took for a new behavior to become automatic was, on average, 66 days. But the full range for participants was anywhere from 18 to 254 days.
And this should be a huge relief. If you’ve been trying for a month and it still feels hard, you’re not failing. You’re normal. The key takeaway from the study was that consistency is more important than perfection. Missing a day didn’t ruin the process. What mattered was just getting back on track. So, forget the 21-day myth and commit to the process for the long haul. Be patient. You are overwriting decades of programming. It’s going to take time.
### Empowerment & Call to Action
You now have the knowledge and the tools. You understand that your subconscious isn’t your enemy; it’s a powerful tool that’s been running on old software. You know how to find that old code and how to use affirmations, visualization, and repetition to install a new operating system.
Real change doesn’t come from one big lightning bolt of inspiration. It comes from the small, consistent things you do every single day. It’s the choice to spend five minutes with your affirmations in the morning. It’s choosing to visualize success instead of worrying about failure.
You are the architect. The ability to redesign your future is literally within you.
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### Conclusion
Your past does not have to be your future. The beliefs that were handed to you as a child don’t have to be the beliefs you carry as an adult. The patterns that have kept you stuck are not chains; they are simply well-worn paths in your mind. And today, you’ve learned how to create new ones.
This journey is the ultimate act of empowerment. It is the declaration that you are more powerful than your history and more capable than your doubts.
Your inner world creates your outer world. When you change your programming on the inside, your reality on the outside has to follow. Start today. Start small. But start.
Now, I want you to make a commitment. In the comments below, declare one limiting belief you are committing to rewriting, starting today. Let’s support each other on this path. Thank you for investing this time in yourself. Now go, and be the creator of your reality.
